Is It Okay for a Christian to Date a Non-Christian?

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I know the Bible says not to be "unequally yoked," (2 Corinthians 6:14) but what if I really love the person and isn’t a Christian? Can a relationship like that still work? What should I consider before making that decision? Please somebody help, I am about making this decision?
 
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Truthfully, it won't work out.

Like you quoted from the scriptures that instructs us not to be yoked with unbelievers and we should keep the instructions.

Why? That's because at the ned of the day, we end up suffering from the consequences of our decisions.

Consider, your values and vision.
Is he/she aligned with them? Are you spiritually compatible?

Are your principles aligned together? If you're to carry out an assignment that the Lord instructs you to do, would your partner be for you or against you?

Anything outside the will of God doesn't bring rest.
Truthfully, it won't work out.

Like you quoted from the scriptures that instructs us not to be yoked with unbelievers and we should keep the instructions.

Why? That's because at the ned of the day, we end up suffering from the consequences of our decisions.

Consider, your values and vision.
Is he/she aligned with them? Are you spiritually compatible?

Are your principles aligned together? If you're to carry out an assignment that the Lord instructs you to do, would your partner be for you or against you?

Anything outside the will of God doesn't bring rest.
 
Solution
Truthfully, it won't work out.

Like you quoted from the scriptures that instructs us not to be yoked with unbelievers and we should keep the instructions.

Why? That's because at the ned of the day, we end up suffering from the consequences of our decisions.

Consider, your values and vision.
Is he/she aligned with them? Are you spiritually compatible?

Are your principles aligned together? If you're to carry out an assignment that the Lord instructs you to do, would your partner be for you or against you?

Anything outside the will of God doesn't bring rest.
Yes, exactly my thought too, Thank you. God bless you
 
Well, I think your framing of this question is wrong. I guess you meant "Believer" (born-again Christian) not just Christian. Anybody can profess to be a Christian by virtue of religion. However, not everyone can call themselves a Believer.

It may not matter if a Christian marries a Moslem or a pagan but it matters gravely when a Believer yokes themselves with an Unbeliever. I don't even see the possibility of such marriage because light has no business with darkness and two people cannot walk together unless they agree (Amos 3:3)
 
Well, the Bible says that two cannot walk together except they agree and that we should not be unequally yoked. Song, it is highly discouraged. I would also advise against marrying under the guise of "they've agreed to attend church with me once we marry"..
 
I know the Bible says not to be "unequally yoked," (2 Corinthians 6:14) but what if I really love the person and isn’t a Christian? Can a relationship like that still work? What should I consider before making that decision? Please somebody help, I am about making this decision?
From time immemorial, after the fall of the first man and woman, there have been two distinct race of humanity: the children of God and non Children of God. Consequently, God has always instructed and warned His children the danger of being in marriage with those who are not God's children. The irreparable danger involved is apostasy from the faith (cf. Deuteronomy 7:2-4).

The wisest man, King Solomon, and the strongest man, Samson, that ever lived fell because they failed to heed God's warning on intermarriage with the unbelievers (1 Kings 11:1-9; Judges 14:1-5). These are examples that showed beyond doubt that marriage between the believers and unbelievers may shipwreck.

Under the New Testament, the believers are strictly warned to marry only in the Lord (i.e. to marry fellowship Christians) considering the problems involved in mixed-marriages (1 Corinthians 7:39; 10-16). The apostles and early Christians showed example of marrying fellow Christians which Paul thought to imitate should he desires to marry (cf. 1 Corinthians 9:5).

Above all, Christians are warned thus:
"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14, KJV). The highest yoke of humanity on earth is marriage before it is a lifetime relationship.

It will be advised you study good books on the subject before making a lifetime decision of entering holy matrimony which God desires to be lifelong relationship (Romans 7:2-3). Check for the book titled, Challenges Facing New Couples written by Joseph Oyerinde published by Jorab Nations Publishers.
 
I know the Bible says not to be "unequally yoked," (2 Corinthians 6:14) but what if I really love the person and isn’t a Christian? Can a relationship like that still work? What should I consider before making that decision? Please somebody help, I am about making this decision?
The Bible verse you quoted is actually the foundation of this subject, and there is no controversy about it. The scripture is clear: "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers." This is a command, not merely advice. King Solomon was unequally yoked with foreign women from nations that God had forbidden Israel to intermarry with. He failed in this regard, and these women eventually turned his heart away from God.
1 Kings 11:3-4 (KJV) states:
"And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart. For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the Lord his God, as was the heart of David his father."
Before entering into marriage with an unbeliever, it is essential to examine whether your feelings are based on true love or mere infatuation. Is God leading you in this direction? Some people justify marrying an unbeliever with the hope of converting them, but this is a risky path and rarely happens.

Let’s be guided—love is not blind! The physics principle that says "unlike poles attract" does not apply to Christian marriage, especially when it involves different faiths.
 
I know the Bible says not to be "unequally yoked," (2 Corinthians 6:14) but what if I really love the person and isn’t a Christian? Can a relationship like that sti.ll work? What should I consider before making that decision? Please somebody help, I am about making this decision?
There's more to love and marriage than just feelings and emotions. Spiritual compatibility is a very important aspect of marriage. You both may have different ideas and beliefs on certain matters and this can lead to constant misunderstanding in your marriage. You may even need to compromise your faith at times just because you want to please the person.

So it's better to marry someone who has same faith as you. It will be better and easier to make certain decisions and as settle issues as well.

The dangers of marrying a non Christian is enormous. My dear, please adhere to the scripture you quoted.

It is also important to note that we don't make decisions based on emotions and feelings. We make decisions based on the word of God and the instructions of the holy Spirit.
 
YES! A Christian can marry and date a non Christian. Firstly....who is a Christian?
A Christian is a person who seeks to live his or her life according to the principles and values taught by Jesus Christ.
Where did the word "CHRISTIAN" came from?
In Acts 11:26, the disciples of Jesus Christ were called CHRISTIANS first in Antioch.
Now! Let's look at marrying a non Christian. In Genesis 41:45, Joseph married the daughter of pharaoh, Asenath who is a pagan(idol worshipper) and yet their marriage flourish and later got converted (Genesis 48:8-22).
Exodus 2:16-22, 3:1 Moses got married to Zipporah, the daughter of Jethro who is a pagan priest and yet God bless their union and they multiply while doing the work of God .
Hosea 1:2-3 God instructed Hosea to marry a prostitute named Gomer, He obeyed God and married her and later Gomer got converted and became a new person (Hosea 2:16-23).
When you carefully go through all these Bible verses, you'll discover that divine connection and marriage are possible whether it's from the same religion or not, God has a way of connecting us for his own purpose in order for us to fulfill our assignment in the life of that person, country and the world at large.
SHALOM 🙏🏼
 
YES! A Christian can marry and date a non Christian. Firstly....who is a Christian?
A Christian is a person who seeks to live his or her life according to the principles and values taught by Jesus Christ.
Where did the word "CHRISTIAN" came from?
In Acts 11:26, the disciples of Jesus Christ were called CHRISTIANS first in Antioch.
Now! Let's look at marrying a non Christian. In Genesis 41:45, Joseph married the daughter of pharaoh, Asenath who is a pagan(idol worshipper) and yet their marriage flourish and later got converted (Genesis 48:8-22).
Exodus 2:16-22, 3:1 Moses got married to Zipporah, the daughter of Jethro who is a pagan priest and yet God bless their union and they multiply while doing the work of God .
Hosea 1:2-3 God instructed Hosea to marry a prostitute named Gomer, He obeyed God and married her and later Gomer got converted and became a new person (Hosea 2:16-23).
When you carefully go through all these Bible verses, you'll discover that divine connection and marriage are possible whether it's from the same religion or not, God has a way of connecting us for his own purpose in order for us to fulfill our assignment in the life of that person, country and the world at large.
SHALOM 🙏🏼
All the examples you gave are all under the old covenant. Yes, I know God allowed it, but in the new covenant we have been warned not to be yoked with the unbelievers.
 
YES! A Christian can marry and date a non Christian. Firstly....who is a Christian?
A Christian is a person who seeks to live his or her life according to the principles and values taught by Jesus Christ.
Where did the word "CHRISTIAN" came from?
In Acts 11:26, the disciples of Jesus Christ were called CHRISTIANS first in Antioch.
Now! Let's look at marrying a non Christian. In Genesis 41:45, Joseph married the daughter of pharaoh, Asenath who is a pagan(idol worshipper) and yet their marriage flourish and later got converted (Genesis 48:8-22).
Exodus 2:16-22, 3:1 Moses got married to Zipporah, the daughter of Jethro who is a pagan priest and yet God bless their union and they multiply while doing the work of God .
Hosea 1:2-3 God instructed Hosea to marry a prostitute named Gomer, He obeyed God and married her and later Gomer got converted and became a new person (Hosea 2:16-23).
When you carefully go through all these Bible verses, you'll discover that divine connection and marriage are possible whether it's from the same religion or not, God has a way of connecting us for his own purpose in order for us to fulfill our assignment in the life of that person, country and the world at large.
SHALOM 🙏🏼
Thanks for your response. Kindly note that neither Joseph, Moses nor Hosea is a Christian because Christ has not yet come into the world during their time. They lived hundred of years ago before Christ's first advent.

Under the New Testament, Christians are expected to marry only in the Lord and to not be unequally yoked with the unbelievers (1 Corinthians 7:39; 2 Corinthians 6:14-17).
 
Thanks for your response. Kindly note that neither Joseph, Moses nor Hosea is a Christian because Christ has not yet come into the world during their time. They lived hundred of years ago before Christ's first advent.

Under the New Testament, Christians are expected to marry only in the Lord and to not be unequally yoked with the unbelievers (1 Corinthians 7:39; 2 Corinthians 6:14-17).
Before Abraham, Jesus was already into existence even from the days of Adam and Eve, If he was not existing there will be no heaven and earth.
Only that he has not yet been made manifest in the likeness of men. Moses was not a Christian and yet God use him to save the children of Israel.
Joseph went into captivity and yet become the prime minister.
I know in the new testament it is stated clearly but one thing to know is OUR WAYS ARE NOT THE WAYS OF GOD.
SHALOM 🙏🏼
 
I know the Bible says not to be "unequally yoked," (2 Corinthians 6:14) but what if I really love the person and isn’t a Christian? Can a relationship like that still work? What should I consider before making that decision? Please somebody help, I am about making this decision?
You answered your own question. That voice telling you “it’s love” ? Dead it! Dead it now! It always ends in tears. Ask around, and someway somehow you know it too, you just choose to deliberately ignore. If you’re still not sure, pray and literally tell God “please take away this man if he’s not meant to be in my life” you won’t even see him the next morning.
 
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